When you’re into someone, it can be nerve-wracking trying to figure out if they feel the same way too. Luckily, humans are hard-wired to behave in certain ways when they like someone else romantically.
So if you want to know whether someone has a crush on you, there are a few surefire signs for you to keep an eye out for which could be signs that they wanna be more than just friends. Let’s take a look at what they are.
Watch their body language
When someone is into you romantically, they tend to send out characteristic body language signals to let you know.
One of this biggest signals is eye contact. Do they look at you deep into your eyes when you talk? Do they try to catch your eye whilst talking to other people? Or, conversely, do they seem a little nervous to look you in the eye at all? All of these could be signs that they like you.
Another clear body language signal is how tactile they are. Non-verbal communication – for example, hand gestures and body contact – are ways of displaying feelings to others. If someone tends to place their hand on you when they are talking, it’s a sign that they feel comfortable with you and want close contact. Sometimes, non-verbal communication can also be things that people do to themselves, rather than others. For example, when someone flicks their hair or touches their mouth when they talk, it can a sign of attraction.
Mirroring is another body language signal to be on the alert for. If someone mimics your body language – either physical or verbal – it is usually a sign that they’re into you. People often don’t realise they are doing this. It’s an unconscious act to try and relate to you more.
Look out for random acts of thoughtfulness
When people want to make a good impression on someone they have a crush on, they tend to display acts of thoughtfulness.
This could be something like buying you little gifts or surprises to make you smile. Just as penguins collects pebbles for their lady-friends, and some birds steal shiny things to impress potential mates, humans use objects as a sign of showing affection. Look out for these small acts, as they could be a sign they want to be more than just friends.
Other acts of thoughtfulness can be times when people take an active interest in the things that are important to you. For example, if they remember the day you have an interview and check in to see how it went, or if they ask you questions about a hobby you have.
These are considerate ways of showing you that they’re interested in the things that make up your world. They are called Emotional Attentiveness, and are good indicators for how someone feels.
Be on the alert for closeness
The physical space between you and others says a huge amount about the relationship you share. Scientists call this proxemics, the study of which reveals all kinds of things about our non-verbal communication.
If someone is comfortable getting close to you (if you want to get technical, proxemics specifies it should be within 0-18 inches form you) then it’s often a sign of desired intimacy. Similarly, if the person leans in towards you when you talk, it’s another positive signal that this person likes you more than just as a friend.
Whilst these tips will give you a good indicator of whether someone’s into you or not, try not to be too on the alert. If you have a crush on someone, rather than analysing their behaviors focus instead on being totally comfortable in your own skin when you communicate with them. Let you shine through. Humans are complex beings, and just because someone doesn’t clearly display common signs of attraction, doesn’t mean they’re not feeling them. Be open and honest about how you feel, and the rest will take care of itself.
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